My Relationship Standards Pt. 2

An updated list of my... relationship standards? Mostly weening out things I felt were not necessary.

I NEED...

• Physical presence; touch. 

• Commitment. Long term is the goal. I want to spend the rest of my life with you.

• Communication. I understand needing space. When it comes to actually speaking about things, though, silence is never an answer. If I or something else upsets you, tell me.

• Honesty. Be open, be truthful. Tell me when something is wrong, let me help you as best as I can. 

• To be a priority. Being your partner, I should be important to you. I will be treated as such.

• Affection/affirmations. Even if it is just small things. A small "I miss you" text while I'm at work. Calling me on my drive home to tell me the latest bit of life drama. Tell me you want me, that you care about me... stuff like that.

• Stability. No last minute switch ups or plan cancellations. Follow through with what you say you're going to do, just as I would.

• Loyalty. This one is self explanatory. There is absolutely zero reason to be entertaining other individuals while you are in a relationship.

• Openness with boundaries. Set clear boundaries. I want you to feel safe and respected.

• Intimacy. It's important. Our little moments by ourselves that are completely unique to us. This could be both emotional or physical, just our own quirks that make our relationship that much more important.

I WANT...

• Shared interests. Even if there isn't a ton of stuff at the beginning, I would like to find things that we can bond over/learn together.

• Intellectual conversations. I need you to be able to understand what I am saying and be able to respond with similar complexity.

• Openness to try new things. 

• Healthy habits. Morning walks, maybe the gym. Perhaps you enjoy reading. Something that isn't doom scrolling through social media or inhaling that next breath of delicious nicotine.

DO NOT...

• Be dishonest. Once that trust is broken any healthy bond between us may be as good as gone- I will most likely never be able to fully trust you again. Just tell the truth.

• Neglect yourself. I have goals. You need goals. 

Published 12:27 10/14/2025